Making Good Choices: Teaching your Child Self-Care and Responsibility

August 26, 2012

Part of teaching children responsibility is teaching them to think about the impact their decisions and actions will have for themselves and others. This can include allowing your child to pick out his own outfit for school, to discuss the pros and cons of dinner choices or to pack his own suitcase for a family trip.

Opening the door to making choices means you’ll need to guide and channel your child’s natural desire for independence in a constructive way. Preschoolers are still in the process of learning about making and breaking promises, commitments and consequences. Responsibility is an abstract concept that can’t be explained with a single example. Children come to an understanding of what it means by watching and listening to their parents and other significant role models in their lives.

Children also learn about responsibility by being given developmentally appropriate duties to fulfill like helping set the table for dinner, putting away toys and keeping a bedroom clean. Empowering your child to make his own decisions at an early age can foster independence, self-esteem and problem-solving skills that will be very beneficial in later years! Dr. Mary Zurn, vice president of education for Primrose Schools, suggests the following tips for teaching children to practice responsibility and make decisions for their own lives:

StrongSimplify the process. Offer a limited number of realistic choices by adding a little helpful information at the same time: “It’s very cold outside today. Would you rather wear your red sweater or your blue jacket?” By offering fewer options along with why those options are the ones to choose from, you and your child can share control of the end result.

StrongOffer age-appropriate choices. Be sure to take your child’s age and developmental level into consideration when asking him to make decisions. Young children can have difficulty thinking beyond the moment when asked to respond to open-ended questions. For example, if you ask your child what he wants to eat for dinner, he may respond with “ice cream” because that is his favorite food. But by offering a choice—pasta or chicken—you are offering two healthy options.

StrongValidate your child’s choice. Once your child has made a decision, validate it with a genuine response: “I’m glad you chose this book. It’s one of my favorites, too. It has such pretty pictures!” By affirming your child’s decision, you build his confidence to make future decisions.

StrongEstablish expectations. As adults, we know we don’t always end up making the “best” or “right” decision, and it’s important to share this with your child. Let him know it is okay to ask for help and that it’s fine if things don’t turn out as expected. Your child should feel comfortable asking for support and not worried about failing.

StrongGuide your child through the decision-making process. This is a great way to actively engage your child in what it means to make decisions. Think out loud with her by discussing the options. Your child can learn a lot by making a mistake or wishing she had made a different choice! For example, if your child asks to take multiple toys outside, you can respond with, “Try it and let me know how it works. That way you will know whether or not to take both outside next time.”

For more tips from Dr. Zurn, visit www.Dr.ZandFriends.com. To learn more about Primrose School of Five Forks, visit www.PrimroseFiveForks.com, or call 770.985.0028.

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