We humans have cast our lot together. Trusting each other is the only way we’re going to get anything done.
Your life is a series of moments. You can enjoy them, or you can wish them away. It’s your choice.
Here’s the thing I’ve learned: funerals matter. When a friend helps you through a funeral, you never forget it.
There are two types of negotiation. The kind where you don’t care what kind of reputation you’re creating, like a hostage negotiation. The other kind of negotiation is when you’re negotiating prices and terms with people that you’re eventually going to have to work with.
The big question — How would I want this handled if I were on the other side? — doesn’t simplify problems, it illuminates their complexity, which is exactly what is required to solve them.
If you ask people what they want for their children, most will tell you that they just want their kids to grow up to be happy.
Personally, and in business, mastering people skills is life’s big difference-maker. It’s not easy, but important skills are rarely intuitive. Mastering the art of winning people over is the difference between being surrounded by support and enthusiasm versus having do everything on your own.
Group relationships are complex. But they’re worth it.
If you’re forced to co-exist with a poison person, don’t make the mistake of letting them inject their venom into your life. They may be the killjoy, but you’re the one inviting them to dinner every night.
If you’ve already abandoned your resolution, or you’re wavering, try reframing it into an intention. You’ll feel better about it, and you can go back to it all year long.
Life is too short to have — or to be — a bad friend. If you see yourself in any of these, it’s not too late to change. And if these remind you of someone you know, you might want to consider an intervention.
When you pause, you breathe, which makes you physically stronger, and you clear your mind, which enables you to think more strategically.
We’ve all known people who touted the merits of their best (perceived) traits without realizing that they carried them to such extremes that people found them off putting.
The 60 percent principle is my new mantra. If I want it, and I’m close to 60 percent confident that I can do it, I’m going for it.
There’s a great scene in the 1980s movie “When Peggy Sue Got Married.” Kathleen Turner’s time travels go back to high school. Already having lived much of her adult life, she confidently tells her math teacher, “Mr. Snelgrove, I happen to know that in the future I will not have the slightest use for algebra.”