When making changes in the new year, Ann Wilder said there are a few factors to consider.
Wilder, who is the director of Eastside Medical Center’s Heritage Behavioral Health Services, said before making a change one should ask: Am I making this change for me or am I making this change for another reason?
“Unless I can incorporate some personal value, the change won’t stick anyway,” she said. “The goal has to be for us.”
If making the change for oneself, Wilder said, one should then take the SMART approach — the goal must be specific, measurable, achievable, responsible and based on a timeline.
“It really isn’t complicated,” Wilder said. “Whatever the goal is — a new year, a new us — we need to know (that) I need to think a new way and I need to change some behaviors. It’s really like laying out our own strategic plan.”
Wilder said if one can’t accomplish a goal, there’s typically an underlying reason.
“What I would always encourage people to do is let’s figure out what that underlying reason is. There’s really no reason we can’t accomplish what we want in life. Any kind of a barrier or fear, most of that can be dispelled with new ideas and new information. We need to spend enough time to get new information. That’s a component that I think we forget to include in our new year, new you plan is if I don’t get new information, I’m just going to keep doing things the same way over and over and over.”
Wilder also encourages being proud of what is accomplished, even if it’s not the specific goal that was set.
“One success is a stepping stone to the next success,” Wilder said, “and then that success is a stepping stone to the next one.”