It starts with the speeches. You know, the ones you rehearse in your head for the grand and glorious moment when you finally get to tell so-and-so what you really think about them.
Your monologue gets more brilliant each day as you practice it over and over again in the car or shower. Clarifying your thoughts, honing your points, preparing for that big day when you finally let them have it.
The stunning clarity and accuracy with which you deliver your soliloquy will be amazing. It's fantasy you can practically taste, that beautiful moment when you finally take the filters off and confront them with the truth.
The truth about their selfishness and dysfunctions.
Or how they ignore people and don't care how much it hurts.
Or the way they misrepresent facts and manipulate others into taking their side.
Or how they blame everyone else for their problems and refuse to take responsibility for their own self-created mess.
Or the way they conveniently rewrite history to suit their story and get away with it because nobody is willing to call them on their lies.
Oh, it will be a moment all right. Because once you finally speak the truth, there can be no more denials. Because as everyone knows, there is no defense against the truth - the real truth that is.
In fact, they will probably be rendered absolutely speechless, because once and for all they have been exposed.
No more manipulating, no more game playing, no more falsehoods, and no more lies.
Now, thanks to you, the whole world knows who and what they really are.
We've all been there.
Scheming and dreaming about how satisfying it would be to call so and so on the carpet for their wicked ways.
Whether it's the crazy sister-in-law, the negative co-worker or the selfish spouse, there's nothing like the dysfunctions of others to bring out the beast in us.
And what makes us even more crazy is the way everybody else lets them get away with it. It's almost like no one but us is willing to see the truth.
So we rehearse the speeches, savoring the righteousness of our words as we turn them over and over again in our mind. Scheming and dreaming about the day when we can expose the evil one. So that God and everybody else will finally know the true nature of their wrongs.
Well, guess what? God already knows.
God knows all about their silly little games. Just like God knows all about your silly little games, and my silly little games, and all the other ways that we human beings make each other nuts.
But God - and feel free to apply that term as literally, conceptually, specifically or vaguely as you like - has decided to love them any way. Because the mind of God is large enough to hold a person's negative behavior and their positive attributes, at the same time.
And therein lies the problem. We human beings think in terms of either/or, as in people are good or bad, right or wrong, loving or not.
But God knows we're both, that we're selfish and we're selfless, that we're kind and we're mean, that we're judgmental and forgiving, each and everyone of us.
So the next time you start practicing the speeches, you might want to ask yourself what little speech is someone preparing for you?
Snellville resident Lisa Earle McLeod is a nationally recognized speaker and the author of "Forget Perfect." Contact her at www.forgetperfect.com.